I took the the 5 Love Languages test a few years ago. It turns out that my love language is “acts of service”. For me, actions speak louder than words. I don’t need to hear (however, yes, sometimes it’s nice), that I’m “amazing” or I’m “pretty”. The way to win my heart is to help make my life just a little easier. If someone can take just one thing off of my plate, it means a lot to me. I stress. A lot. Over, well, basically everything. I make lists every day of things I need to get done, things I am stressing over completing. So, if someone could help take a few things off of my page long list a day, that would be a definite way to my heart.

I think a generic answer for everyone, but a true one, is “make me laugh”. There are certain people in your life that you meet and you just click. Within hours, you have inside jokes and you’re laughing at everything around you. This is how it should be. When you look at someone and know what the other one is thinking and you bust out laughing, how awesome is that? When you can take any situation – good, bad, happy, sad – and make it fun with someone, that’s the goal, right? It definitely is for me and winning my heart.

I am an alpha. In every area of my life. When it comes to work, friendships, relationships, I have always been the alpha for the most part. A struggle for me in relationships has been just that. I become this alpha and I control everything. I make the decisions, I make the money, and I feel like I need to “take care” of others financially. I feel like I need to be the one to hold up our lifestyle and keep up with the Jones. And mostly, the people I have been with, took advantage of that. They were “okay” with letting me do that and it turned me, in a sense, numb towards them. Maybe even heartless. I could do what I wanted to and I knew they wouldn’t leave, because they “needed” me. And so I did. No one would stand up to me and I hated it. So, the third way to win my heart is, to not let me be the alpha in the relationship. Stand up to me. Tell me when I’m doing something you don’t like or you don’t think that I should. Hold me accountable.

Another generic, but true answer is, feed me! Let’s be honest. I am a country girl and I like to eat. I am not one of those girls that will go out and get a side salad for dinner. Take me to the local steakhouse, give me a steak, some potatoes, corn, and about a million rolls, and I will be a happy girl. Cooking for me is always a plus too. That goes along with making my life easier. If breakfast/lunch/dinner is one less thing for me to think about, I am okay with that. Just please, for the love of God, if I say, “where do you want to eat or what do you want to eat” – make a decision. There is nothing that I hate more than the back and forth of deciding what we want to eat.

Last, but definitely not least, is to help us both grow. I want to be a power couple. I want to have goals and dreams and not only achieve them, but exceed them. I want us to help each other get there. I do not want to just have a “cheerleader” or “supporter”, I want someone that is going to have the hard conversations with me. I want them to give me advice, not only personally, but professionally. I want them to tell me if they think I should be doing something different and to stop me when I am doing something wrong. Remind me of my goals, our goals, often.